{"id":293,"date":"2019-08-28T21:54:30","date_gmt":"2019-08-28T21:54:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/myunheardvoice.org\/?page_id=293"},"modified":"2019-08-28T21:54:30","modified_gmt":"2019-08-28T21:54:30","slug":"talking-to-your-kids-about-sexual-assault","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/myunheardvoice.org\/ru\/talking-to-your-kids-about-sexual-assault\/","title":{"rendered":"Talking to Your Kids About Sexual Assault"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It can be stressful to plan a big safety talk about sexual assault \nwith your kid. The good news is, you don\u2019t have to. Conversations about \nsexual assault can be a part of the safety conversations you\u2019re already \nhaving, like knowing when to speak up, how to take care of friends, and \nlistening to your gut. The key is to start these conversations when your\n kids are young, and have these conversations often.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Start conversations about safety when your kids are young<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Teach young children the language they need to talk about their \nbodies and information about boundaries to help them understand what is \nallowed and what is inappropriate. These lessons help them know when \nsomething isn\u2019t right and give them the power to speak up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Teach children the names of their body parts. <\/strong>When  children have the words to describe their body parts, they may find it  easier to ask questions and express concerns about those body parts.<\/li><li><strong>Some parts of the body are private. <\/strong>Let children  know that other people shouldn\u2019t touch or look at them. If a healthcare  professional has to examine these parts of the body, be present.<\/li><li><strong>It\u2019s OK to say \u201cno.\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0It\u2019s important to let children  know they are allowed to say \u201cno\u201d to touches that make them  uncomfortable. This message isn\u2019t obvious to children, who are often  taught to be obedient and follow the rules. Support your child if they  say no, even if it puts you in an uncomfortable position. For example,  if your child doesn&#8217;t want to hug someone at a family gathering, respect  their decision to say \u201cno\u201d to this contact.<\/li><li> <strong>Talk about secrets. <\/strong>Perpetrators will often use  secret-keeping to manipulate children. Let children know they can always  talk to you, especially if they\u2019ve been told to keep a secret. If they  see someone touching another child, they shouldn\u2019t keep this secret,  either. Learn more about protecting a child from sexual assault. <\/li><li> <strong>Reassure them that they won\u2019t get in trouble. <\/strong>Young  children often fear getting in trouble or upsetting their parents by  asking questions or talking about their experiences. Be a safe place for  your child to share information about things that they have questions  about or that make them uncomfortable. Remind them they won\u2019t be  punished for sharing this information with you. <\/li><li><strong>Show them what it looks like to do the right thing.<\/strong>  It could be as simple as helping an elderly person get off a bus or  picking up change that someone has dropped on the ground. When you model  helping behavior it signals to your child that this is a normal,  positive way to behave.<\/li><li> <strong>When they come to you, make time for them. <\/strong>If your  kid comes to you with something they feel is important, take the time to  listen. Give them your undivided attention, and let them know you take  their concerns seriously. They may be more likely to come to you in the  future if they know their voice will be heard. <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Continue to engage teens in safety conversations<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s important to create a dialogue about topics like safety and \nsexual assault with your teen. Consider these conversation starters to \nengage them in conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Use the media to make it relevant.\u00a0<\/strong>Ask  your teen\u2019s opinion on something happening on social media, in the  news, in a new movie, or on a popular TV show. You could even watch an  episode with them and ask follow up questions. Asking their opinion  shows them that you value their point of view and opens up the door for  more conversation.<\/li><li><strong>Use your own experience to tell a safety story. <\/strong>Sharing  your own experiences can make these conversations relevant and feel  more real to teens. If you don\u2019t have an experience you feel comfortable  sharing, you can tell a story about someone you know.<\/li><li><strong>Talk about caring for their friends \u2014 not just about their own behavior. <\/strong>Talking  about how to be a good friend can be a powerful way of expressing to  your teen that you trust them to do the right thing without sounding  like you\u2019re targeting their personal behavior. It also gives you the  chance to communicate safety practices they may not otherwise be  receptive to.<\/li><li><strong>Talk about sexual assault directly. <\/strong>For some teens,  safety issues like sexual assault aren\u2019t on the radar. On the other  hand, they may have misconceptions about sexual assault they\u2019ve picked  up from peers or the media. Bring up <a href=\"http:\/\/myunheardvoice.org\/ru\/statistics\/\">statistics<\/a>  that relate to them, such as the fact that 93 percent of victims who  are minors know the perpetrator. Explain that no one \u201clooks like a  rapist,\u201d and that eight out of 10\u00a0instances of sexual assault are committed by someone known to the victim.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Legal Disclaimer<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:12px\"><strong>MyUnheardVoice website provides general information that is intended, but not guaranteed, to be correct and up-to-date. The information is not presented as a source of legal advice. You should not rely, for legal advice, on statements or representations made within the website or by any externally referenced Internet sites. If you need legal advice upon which you intend to rely in the course of your legal affairs, consult a competent, independent attorney. MUV does not assume any responsibility for actions or non-actions taken by people who have visited this site, and no one shall be entitled to a claim for detrimental reliance on any information provided or expressed.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:12px\"><em>Original source link: https:\/\/www.rainn.org\/articles\/talking-your-kids-about-sexual-assault<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It can be stressful to plan a big safety talk about sexual assault with your kid. The good news is, you don\u2019t have to. 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