{"id":269,"date":"2019-08-28T21:25:37","date_gmt":"2019-08-28T21:25:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/myunheardvoice.org\/?page_id=269"},"modified":"2019-08-28T21:27:00","modified_gmt":"2019-08-28T21:27:00","slug":"how-to-respond-if-someone-is-pressuring-you","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/myunheardvoice.org\/ru\/how-to-respond-if-someone-is-pressuring-you\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Respond if Someone Is Pressuring You"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Perpetrators of sexual violence often use tactics, such as guilt or \nintimidation, to pressure a person into something they do not want to \ndo. It can be upsetting, frightening, or uncomfortable if you find \nyourself in this situation. Remember that it\u2019s not your fault that the \nother person is acting this way\u2014they are responsible for their own \nactions. The following tips may help you exit the situation safely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Remind yourself this isn\u2019t your fault.<\/strong> You did not do anything wrong. It is the person who is pressuring you who is responsible.<\/li><li><strong>Trust your gut.<\/strong> Don&#8217;t feel obligated to do anything\n you don&#8217;t want to do. It doesn\u2019t matter why you don\u2019t want to do \nsomething. Simply not being interested is reason enough. Do only what \nfeels right to you and what you are comfortable with.<\/li><li><strong>Have a code word. <\/strong>Develop a code with friends or \nfamily that means \u201cI\u2019m uncomfortable\u201d or \u201cI need help.\u201d It could be a \nseries of numbers you can text, like \u201c311.\u201d It might be a phrase you say\n out loud such as, \u201cI wish we took more vacations.\u201d This way you can \ncommunicate your concern and get help without alerting the person who is\n pressuring you.<\/li><li><strong>It\u2019s okay to lie.<\/strong> If you are concerned about \nangering or upsetting this person, you can lie or make an excuse to \ncreate an exit. It may feel wrong to lie, but you are never obligated to\n remain in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, scared, or \nthreatened. Some excuses you could use are: needing to take care of a \nfriend or family member, not feeling well, and having to be somewhere \nelse by a certain time. Even excusing yourself to use the bathroom can \ncreate an opportunity to get away or to get help. Whatever you need to \nsay to stay safe is okay\u2014even if it may seem embarrassing at the time.<\/li><li><strong>Think of an escape route.<\/strong> If you had to leave \nquickly, how would you do it? Locate the windows, doors, and any others \nmeans of exiting the situation. Are there people around who might be \nable to help you? How can you get their attention? Where can you go when\n you leave?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>If you have to find a way out of a situation where someone is  pressuring you, or if something happens that you didn\u2019t consent to, it  is not your fault. Take care of yourself, and know you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Legal Disclaimer<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:12px\"><strong>MyUnheardVoice website provides general information that is intended, but not guaranteed, to be correct and up-to-date. The information is not presented as a source of legal advice. You should not rely, for legal advice, on statements or representations made within the website or by any externally referenced Internet sites. If you need legal advice upon which you intend to rely in the course of your legal affairs, consult a competent, independent attorney. MUV does not assume any responsibility for actions or non-actions taken by people who have visited this site, and no one shall be entitled to a claim for detrimental reliance on any information provided or expressed.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:12px\"><em>Original source link: https:\/\/www.rainn.org\/articles\/how-respond-if-someone-pressuring-you<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Perpetrators of sexual violence often use tactics, such as guilt or intimidation, to pressure a person into something they do not want to do. 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